Quick Tips for Adopted Children:

• Believe in the love your parents have for you
• Don’t put your faith in “fairy tale” reunions
• Remember, no parent is perfect

I don't want to find my birth parents - Linda B.
    First, let me get this our of the way...of COURSE I have been curious about my natural parents. I wondered if I looked like them, if I think like them. I thought about them when I started piano and sang in a high school musical. My Mom told me my birth dad had some musical talent. I certainly know I got my height from them. I am much taller than my parents at 5'10". The truth is my adopted parents didn't talk to much about the fact that I was adopted. It was a non-issue in our house and therefore I really didn't think about it too much. I eventually came to understand how a woman could get pregnant unintentionally and my Mother did a good job of explaining that my birth mother probably just wasn't ready to raise a baby. She never made it seem that my birth mother had abandoned me. As I grew older I had some fantasies about meeting my birth mother but knew it would hurt my Mom. As I matured I found that reality is rarely as good as fantasy. I would describe myself as a realist. For all I know my birth mother "knew" the entire basketball team and has no idea who my father is. I don't want to believe that, but it is certainly possible. It is also possible that my birth mother doesn't want to be found. This may sound cold, but I also don't want the obligations that come with another family. I have a hard enough time juggling the holidays as it is!!!! Besides, I like the woman I have become, and I like the life I have built. I owe that to my adoptive parents and I love them deeply. I don't need more. End of story.